How To Reinvent Yourself After Having Children
This Is The REAL Bounce Back
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Tell me if you can relate. In my 20’s, I was extremely driven to succeed in the work place. In addition to my 9-5, I always had a passion project on the side. I won’t bore you with the details, but dog walking, liquor promo girl, soap making - I had many acquired skills outside of what I went to school for. I have always been out to learn more, do more, and earn more.
MY friends have always described me as “driven”, and “motivated”. I was never one to settle for just one job. What else was I to do with my time? Plus, there are so many great “jobs” out there, why settle for just one? My friends and I often joked about me being on the lookout for an entry level CEO gig.
When I wrote my Dear New Mom, Don’t Quit Your Job Yet Post, you can see how when I was in my 20’s I had a completely different viewpoint on women, the workplace, and having a family. It was an unfortunate opinion, one that I have proudly grown and learned from. Distance and time can always give a person a new perspective.
In my 30’s, when I had kids, I began to reassess my goals and wants in life. My son changed me. He made me realize how much I had wanted a family, and to be with my family. I ended up reducing my hours at work, which was a blessing that my manager helped me to attain. I love having an extra day off during the week to be home with my kids.
In 2017, our second born, our daughter, was born. When I went back to work after a 12 week leave, I felt reinvigorated to press forward in my job. I was happy to take a step back when I became a mom to my first born, but all of a sudden, I wanted to go full throttle with my career. I believe that I am capable of so much more than what I am currently doing for my organization. I want more influence and to make more of an impact.
Maybe it was the fact that I now had a daughter and felt that I needed to be a role model for her, but that cannot be 100% it because I know my son needs a role model as well. It is good for both of my kids to see the strong determined woman and mother that I am. I want to lead by example.
I’ve written posts about “bouncing back” before, but this was in terms of fitness and not my career. How vain. Now, I am more career minded than ever. I am in a place right now in my career where I am confident in my skill-set, and I know exactly what I want. I feel that my children have given me the confidence to push forward where I can and to come back and pursue a vision that I have for contributing to my organization.
Working on being promoted into a new role can be daunting. But I am up for the challenge. Knowing that I have two tiny humans at home watching me is all the motivation that I need. I am not the same person that I was in my 20’s. My kids have helped to reshape me, and they have helped to reinvigorate the momentum that I had at one point in my life.
We all need a “time out” from time to time. Mine was immediately after I had my son. I love being a mom. I love working as well. As women, we can do both, if we want to. And I want to. It is never too late, or too early, to find your drive again. Life is a constant process of reinventing yourself, and that is what keeps things exciting!