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My husband and I are high school sweet hearts. So cliche, right?! We became engaged at 25 and were married by age 26. A lot happened in my 20's for me. Let me break it down:
-Finished college in 3.5 years, majored in Biology.
-Moved back home to the Midwest, got the first big post-college job.
-Moved into the city, had the city life experience with two of my high school besties.
-Applied and was accepted into evening MBA program.
-Changed jobs, climbed that ladder.
-Applied and was accepted into Food Science Masters Program.
-Changed jobs, kept climbing that latter.
-Decided it's time to start a family.
-Tried to have a baby.
-Kept trying to have a baby......
Life has taught me that there is a lot that is in our control, but that there is also a lot that OUT of our control. Many of the things that I have experienced and achieved in my past have taken hard work. But from what I know, you set your mind towards something, put forth the effort, take a certain prescribed path, and boom, it just might happen! One of the biggest awakenings that I have had was the potential challenges that could lie on the road to pregnancy.
At the time when we became married, we seemed too young to have kids. There was still so much that we had yet to do. About four years after being married, we decided it was time. It was as if a light switch flipped. One day, we discussed having a baby, and after that discussion, we were both all in.
After that first month off of birth control, I anxiously awaited a positive pregnancy test. To my surprise....nothing. Wait, hold up! Wasn't this supposed to be easy?! Isn't getting pregnant a breeze, something we needed to work very hard to prevent if we are not in a situation to have a baby?! Well, it can be easy, for some. For many, they will not truly understand the possible challenges until they are knee-deep into "trying".
With each passing month that went by without becoming pregnant, the anxiety started to build. We started to ask ourselves, "What if this is going to be REALLY hard? What measures were going to need to be taken? Who do we go to for answers? Where do we start?".
By month six of trying without success, I made that first doctor appointment. I was given a pat on the back and told to go home and keep on trying. Six months and nothing. Our hearts were beginning to hurt.
By month 11, I was crushed that almost a year had passed and we were unsuccessful in conceiving. I had been charting and using the BBT technique for months. I had had numerous blood tests conducted to check every hormone and vitamin level in by body. My husband had been checked out as well. It was inconclusive as to what could have been causing an issue for us. We were both "fine".
At that point, I was prescribed clomiphene (commonly called Clomid). Month one....negative. Month two...negative. Then, on month three of Clomid (month 13 of trying), we received the best news that any couple looking to start a family could have received - a positive test! I was so shocked by the sight of two lines, that I took an obscene amount of tests after that leading up to our first doctor appointment.
Once we became pregnant, the fear of losing the baby immediately sunk in. We had hoped and prayed so hard for this moment, we couldn't fathom having it taken away. But guess what? The pregnancy stuck. We got lucky, and our baby continued to grow.
My doctor eventually brought up the term subfertility. So many couples go through either infertility or subfertility. Subfertile couples take much longer to become pregnant that their fertile counterparts. The best analogy that I have heard is that with subfertility, it's like you're running a marathon and you can't see the finish line. This can cause couples an endless amount of stress.
In hindsight, we are very lucky to have only needed three cycles of Clomid. But let me tell you, when you are in the thick of that marathon, you begin to wonder what the end will look like. Will we ever be blessed with a child? How much heartache and money will be needed to have a family that we so very much wanted?
After becoming pregnant, things went smoothly for the first several months. We found out at 22 weeks that we were having a BOY. We were overjoyed! But it was all downhill for a while after that (thankfully, only downhill for ME, and not our baby). By week 34, I blew up and had pregnancy-induced edema until I delivered at 38.5 weeks. You probably haven't ever seen swelling this intense!
After having my son, I then experience several other mind blowing ailments that I know many of you can relate to. At the time, I didn't even know these "conditions" existed.
For starters, I had a debilitating hematoma that formed during child birth. I will save you the details (for now), but the running joke in my family was "ask me about my hematomaaaaaaaa" (apparently I loved to talk about this anomaly). Two weeks after bringing our son home from the hospital, I developed mastitis. OUCH! Then, four months postpartum, 50% of my hair fell out, and it has not returned since.
And guess what? It was and is all worth it! I would take the pain of the edema, hematoma, and mastitis along with my hair loss over and over again in order to be able to expand our family once again. Becoming a mother has been the greatest adventure of my life. The wait was worth it, and personally, I believe I needed that wait to teach me what an amazing miracle having a baby was.
Outside of my motherhood gig, I work as a Food Scientist. As you saw above, I have collected a few Masters Degrees along the way prior to starting our family. I am so glad that I got my schooling out of the way before having a baby - squeezing in time for papers, projects, and studying with a newborn would have been a nightmare!
I LOVE to cook. Not only is it part of my 9-5 job, but I thoroughly enjoy preparing nutritious meals for my family on a daily basis. Here on my blog, you will find many easy recipes so that you too can create delicious and nutritious meals during the week.
To add even more madness to our chaotic life as new parents, we are in the process of building a new home. We had a baby, and all of a sudden, we outgrew our house as soon as our 7 lb 3 oz bundle of joy was brought home from the hospital. THIS is why people say children are so expensive. It all makes sense now......
Thank you for reading and I hope you find some of the things I have to say helpful, sincere, fun, silly, and at times, utterly ridiculous! Being a mom is a never ending rollercoaster, and for some of us, the path to becoming a mother is a rollercoaster that we never knew we were getting on. I have been overwhelmed with the support and information that the motherhood community has provided me with when I need it, and now, I am hoping to provide the same for others.
5 Things You Should Know About ME!
1) If I could only have one piece of decor in my entire home, it would be an arrangement of fresh flowers.
2) My favorite book of all time, one that EVERYONE should read, is this one. I reference this book at least once per week! I have never read a more fascinating and captivating book. Although, this one is a close second. Social currency, anyone?!
3) My hair is not real. Well, it's real, but I did not grow it. All about that here!
4) When I set my mind to something, I go FULL THROTTLE. As seen here when I was on The Ellen Show! But when I want to procrastinate, I too, can be a mastermind in this arena.
5) My favorite thing about being a Mom is the love. I could not have possibly foreseen how special this tiny human would be to me until I was pregnant and then holding him 40 weeks later. Motherhood is everything, to me!
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